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to meat or not to meat?

October 8th, 2009 at 12:57 pm

Next weekend we are going away to BIL's family's holiday house.

It was arranged awhile ago, as a 'relaxing weekend'. Yesterday we got an invitation in the mail for their daughters '3 month birthday'.


Cute, I guess.

Are we supposed to give them a present???

Also, one thing that irks me, even though it probably shouldn't:

She wrote on the invitation: 'Meat will be provided'. And also that she can organise all the rest of the food if we all put in money, or we can bring each bring food and pool our items.

How much would everyone like to bet that if we all put in money, I would still have to go and buy something for myself, the vegetarian?

The only reason I say this is that I have noticed that every time we go to their house now, we go out for dinner. But when they come to our house, I cook something that usually has meat in it and something else for myself. But we always have the option of them having meat (wouldn't want to miss out for a single day now would we?!?!). I'm probably being petty but argh!

9 Responses to “to meat or not to meat?”

  1. craigthor Says:

    I think when you have them over you should cook vegetarian. They either like it or don't eat.

    We switch between vegetarian and non vegetarian as we have both groups in the family and friends. When we host and know vegetarians will be there we cook in there favor as if some one can't go a meal without meat well its not my problem.


  2. dmontngrey Says:

    I learned a long time ago that no matter how much you cater to other people, that is rarely reciprocated.

    I also learned (since I am a picky eater) to eat first or bring food if that option is available. WHY does everyone insist on covering EVERYTHING in cheese? I'm not allergic, I just don't like it.

    I do think they would survive if you cooked a delicious vegetarian meal the next time they came over. I eat meat, but I would not be upset at all to go without.

  3. disneysteve Says:

    Why do you cook meat when they come? Your house - your rules.

  4. HouseHopeful Says:

    As for the birthday, I might bring small and unexpensive gift for the little girl. But not anything fancy or expensive. She's only 3, she's not going to remember what you gave her. And they really didn't give you notice that a birthday party was involved. Truthfully, I think you're ok to go without the gift. But if you do bring one, keep it small.

  5. wowitsawonderfullife Says:

    Yes, I agree with HouseHopeful. Bring a token gift (a little book or stuffy), then bring a vegetarian salad or whatever. Then you have fulfilled your obligation for very little cost and time.

  6. cassandra Says:

    I am a meat eater but I have never understood people who eat meat at every meal, every day (or even just every day). Doesn't it get old? Not everything has to have meat in it...

    Anyway! I don't think you should have to make a meal with meat in it just for guests. My veggie friends don't do that for those who do eat meat and, that I know of, no one has gotten upset about it.

    Can you talk to your BIL and make sure that a vegetarian option will be available if you do contribute money? If not, I guess the best option would be to bring a vegetarian dish yourself.

  7. Debtfreeme Says:

    Did you say a party for their three month old? Not three years but three months? Wow!!

  8. whitestripe Says:

    debtfreeme: yes its a weekend away to celebrate their daughter reaching three months of age (NOT years). sorry, i didn't clearly state that those two were combined Big Grin

  9. frugaltexan Says:

    Whitestripe, I feel your pain. Being a vegetarian in a meat loving society can make potluck get togethers very interesting. Where I used to work whenever we'd have a provided lunch I'd bring something I could eat, and then on the rare occassions there'd be something meatless, I'd eat that.
    Maybe you could
    make a vegie dish and say that that was your "share"

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