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did i do the right thing?

April 20th, 2009 at 10:08 pm

Tonight I am driving my boss and colleague (also my closest friend) to a Gala Awards Night for the Baking Industry. My boss is up for an award for Best Bakery, and my colleague has won two awards. My boss said he would pay $50 to the person who drove, so I said I would do it, as my car just got serviced (and it will only cost me $20 in petrol).

Here is the thing: my colleague has NO idea that she has won the awards. Every single person at work knows except her. She is one of those people that does not think she is 'worth' anything and also thinks it would be embarrassing to get an award in front of people.

My boss asked me for help to get her to actually go to the award night (tickets cost $70 each but my boss managed to get three for free). So I called her and said 'We're going, I told Boss we would go' and used his nomination as an excuse.

So here's the thing, I am worried she will hate me or atleast be angry with me once she finds out I lied to her! I know that this sounds silly, but our relationship is based a lot on trust.

She has OCD and there are a lot of things that she will not do - and there are things I have to do for her that she would not ask anyone else (like open a can of drink - a small thing but huge at the same time - as she can't open cans due to not having long nails) and there are things I have to reassure her about that she would not trust from other people.

So I know that I did 'stretch the truth' with this award thing - but I hope she can see that I did it in order to get her to accept something she deserves, and that I would not lie to her about something that would affect her 'safety'.

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5 Responses to “did i do the right thing?”

  1. creditcardfree Says:
    April 20th, 2009 at 10:54 pm 1240268093
    1240268093

    I hope so. Since I don't know her it is hard to say. Let us know how it goes.

  2. HelpMeFriend Says:
    April 20th, 2009 at 11:15 pm 1240269304
    1240269304

    The only thing that should stop you from taking her is if you know for a fact that she will flip out, run out of there in tears, and dies from embarrassment. If these things aren't a for sure will happen, then let her enjoy some limelight. You may not know how she will react. Besides, you can tell her that your boss paid you off for $50. That wouldn't be a lie! You could make the amount a little higher, if you think she would be upset at being sold out for such a small price.

  3. Apprentice Bliss Hunter Says:
    April 20th, 2009 at 11:52 pm 1240271557
    1240271557

    eeemmm...... Maybe you could tell her that she has won... and Everybody really wants her to be there ?

    She may thank you later for the thumbs up... she can mentally prepare to deal with being centre of attention...

    Just a thought...

  4. whitestripe Says:
    April 21st, 2009 at 01:50 am 1240278656
    1240278656

    if i tell her - she will not go. simple as that.

  5. baselle Says:
    April 22nd, 2009 at 04:37 am 1240375071
    1240375071

    One of the more important things to learn as an adult is to let people thank you, let them reward you, and realize that people who recognize other people get pleasure from it - they re-live the joy of going to your bakery and the joy of a well-made thing. For your colleague not to go means that the awards ceremony will lose that certain something.

    Hopefully if she is particularly frightened or has to say a few words up in front of a microphone that you or your boss can come up with her for support.

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