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sharing house with a couple and a baby - is it a big deal???

November 3rd, 2008 at 11:08 am

I don't know if any of you recall me previously talking about a married couple that we are good friends with that may possibly want to move in with us once flatmate moves out?
In light of their recent troubles (the wife's mother has terminal cancer and has only weeks to live, and the husbands parents are divorcing due to his father having an affair - add on to that the wife is 6 months pregnant and the husband working in a bookshop!) we had told them that we don't mind what they do - they are welcome to move in but to not feel any pressure either way. Well the husband came over for a barbecued lunch on sunday and he told us that they were very well leaning toward moving in with us, they have been talking about it a lot, he has started selling a lot of his possessions (a fresh start and a lighter move, I think is what is in his mind, as well as saving money for when the baby arrives.)

It's funny, I have told a few people at work, and the only thing they seem to comment on is the fact that we will be living with a newborn baby.

Why should that even factor into the equasion?

A woman at work smirked at me when I said it didn't bother us. 'oh yeah, keep telling yourself that', she said. Of COURSE i understand that the baby will cry, our friends will be tired, and we will be woken up as well and possibly have to help them out a bit.

But they are our friends - they are helping us and in turn we are helping them. And to be honest, I think that this is such a gift to be able to be a part of our friends first childs life at such a young age. How many people honestly get to experience that? We aren't party hard people. We'll stay out of their way when they need it. This house is large enough that we don't have to see each other if we need space.

Anyway. I am very happy at the prospect of sharing with them.

4 Responses to “sharing house with a couple and a baby - is it a big deal???”

  1. lizajane Says:

    If you're happy with it, that's all that really matters, I suppose. If it doesn't work out, you would hate to lose the friendship, so make sure you discuss a lot up front. Is there a time commitment? If you're thinking this is a short-term arrangement, and they are planning on a year or two, that's definitely one topic where I would start discussions.

  2. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    My husband & I lived in a group situation and it was a some of the absolute best years of my life, including living with someone else's baby through toddlerhood. Never was a child loved by so many so thoroughly and she just reflected all that love back at each and every one of us. I cannot tell you how wonderful those years were for me. If you and your friends really like & respect each other and have similar values, go for it.

  3. whitestripe Says:

    well BF has been friends with them since high school (11 years) and the time frame is six months only. we've always lived with other people, never by ourselves.

  4. whitestripe Says:

    ps: thankyou joan of the arc for some insight. it's nice to hear someone elses experience too.

    these friends are honestly the nicest people on the planet and it will be a joy sharing that time with them.

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