So, DF's sister was due about a week ago. The actual due date is a bit hazy, the hospital and the dr's say different dates.
Anyway, so SIL has NOT been a happy camper for the whole of pregnancy. Granted, she did lose 9 kg's at the start due to morning sickness (which lasted 3 months non-stop). Admittedly that would put me off the whole journey of pregnancy too. But she is just SO difficult to please. She has been fine for the last 6 months other than tiredness, hungryness, normal pregnancy aches and pains etc. But everything has to be SUCH a big deal, and everything has to be about her.
So now she is unhappy because the hospital will not induce her until the 18th. Personally, I am not a fan of inducing unless it is for actual medical reasons (not 'I want it out' reasons). A baby should come when it is ready, and when your body is ready to let it go. But that's just me and my humble opinion.
So because she can't be induced, according to her mum (who visited us today, she is living with SIL at the moment - just to get away) she is just being a pain about everything. As usual, it is all about her. It is all just 'too much'.
Does this not ring warning bells for anyone else?
For reference: DF's sister started uni, quit after a year. Moved in with her dad, left after only a month. Started another uni course, left after a year and a half. Broke up with her ex, moved in with us and planned to save for a trip overseas. Got a job at a bar to save money. Gave up on going overseas, decided to start a fashion course - loaned the money from her and DF's dad for it. Started dating DF's best friend. It was too hard to not see him and go to the fashion course, so she quit that. Started planning to move into a shed that her BF was going to build on their land. Also decided to have a baby together (after being together less than 6 months). Lost the first baby. Was told to wait 3 months before trying again. Got pregnant after a month and a half.
Anyway, as you can see - she can't finish things, and she's impulsive. She's a lovely person when she wants to be though. (when she WANTS to be).
So I am just concerned - a baby is not exactly something you can 'quit' when you want. You can't get a refund and then lie on the couch for three months. So I talked to DF tentatively about it -it's his sister after all. He knows what she's like. I asked him if he knew how much hard work having a child will be. I don't mean 'hard work' I just mean, responsibility. He said yes, of course.
I don't know why I worry about these things. I don't even think I was worried about it, I think I just wanted to make a point about SIL. We have completely different circumstances to his sister to begin with. And I think we tend to think things through a little more. We might actually think a little TOO much. But we do PLAN as well, which is important, right?
thoughts on inducing
July 12th, 2009 at 10:54 am
July 12th, 2009 at 12:21 pm 1247401264
HOWEVER, I agree that inducing should be reserved for medical reasons and not convenience or instant gratification - whatever u want to call it. If it helps let her know contractions are much more severe and painful with an artificial initiation of labor. My water broke with my 2nd daughter but my labor failed to start so I was induced. It was horrible.
And no, you can't quit a baby but sometimes it is so life changing you somehow become a better human being. Well, for some people.
July 12th, 2009 at 01:03 pm 1247403797
July 12th, 2009 at 01:52 pm 1247406768
When you try to treat her as her biological age- it just frustrates you.
July 12th, 2009 at 03:33 pm 1247412784
As far as general immaturity - I think she's in for a huge surprise - but she might grow up a little in the process of becoming a mother.
July 12th, 2009 at 04:02 pm 1247414533
Have you ever been pregnant? it really is miserable for many, oh there are a few who take it well, but most of us are royally whiny, cranky uncomfortable and really unpleasant.
Not that she gets a free pass, just that if she is missing the major support (like my husband) someone is going to hear about all her complaints.
As to the general immaturity, you can always pray the baby helps her grow up, but if not, she is unlikely to harm the kid, you don't get to choose how she parents, if she loves the baby, it will be better off with her than many alternatives.
July 12th, 2009 at 06:00 pm 1247421648